good reading on Depression

http://www.chrisbrogan.com/depression-brave/



go go  and read


http://stronginsideout.com/2012/09/13/depressed-does-not-mean-sad/

Here are some facts for you cheerleaders out there (or facts to share with your cheerleaders):

Sometimes, it just happens.

It could be hormonal, seasonal, induced by stress or lack of sleep, or triggered by something that we don’t even fully understand. Often times, depression just comes up and we’re not sure why. Please don’t keep prying as to what’s “making us sad.” We’re not sad; we’re just a little imbalanced at the moment. :)

When we need space, we need space.

The only way I truly start feeling better is being silent and doing something alone that grounds me in the present. I’m not very good at addressing my depression when I’m around other people, working a lot, surrounded with noise, or being pressured to go out. When we need silence, just give it to us for a little bit. It’s the best way for us to focus on how to make ourselves better.

If you’re concerned, ask.

A lot of people who suffer from depression never seek help for many reasons: stigma, fear, denial, etc. If you’re concerned about someone, don’t be afraid to ask if they’re ok and if there’s anything you can help with. When you do, try to keep it as open as possible and be ready to actually be there to help if you offer it. Don’t offer any specific remedies (see “Your way is not my way” below). Just let them know you care and that you’re there for them.

Anger is not helpful, neither is “Just get over it.”

As we already covered, depression is a chemical imbalance and can not always just simply be “snapped out of.” Instead of abrasiveness, embrace encouragement. Encourage positive actions that your loved one has expressed he/she would like to accomplish. Haven’t heard any from him/her? Ask.

The danger here is going into nagging territory. Encouragement is different; it is subtle and comes from a loving place rather than an urge to control. Give this person space to take action and with subtle encouragement, he/she will.

If someone has expressed the urge to hurt themselves, tell someone who can help.

This is tricky because if you tell someone, you run the risk of losing this person’s trust forever. If you don’t, though, you run the risk of this person taking his/her own life.

I would rather take the former than the latter. This person needs help and may be too afraid to ask for it.

If your loved one tells you that they are planning to hurt themselves, call 1-800-SUICIDE or, if it’s urgent, 911 (your local emergency number). If you’re just worried in a more general sense, check out TWLOHA’s resource page; there are tons of sites out there to help you understand what this person may be going through and how best to help.

Your way is not my way.

This tip is meant for anybody and everybody out there, even those struggling with depression right now.

Another great line from Chris’s post is, “Your way isn’t my way and my way isn’t yours.”

Some of the tips here might not apply to you or your loved one. Whatever your experience with depression has been in the past, this person is unique in the way they handle their own.

Meds, meditation, exercise, therapy, and many other options are available to your loved one, but he/she is the only one that can know for sure what works best. I try to keep an open mind when it comes to hearing about what helps each person most because, when it comes down to it, we can never know the full story behind what this person is going through. Judgement has no place here. Only love… which has been one of the best forms of medication I have personally come across.

The best way to help us is to let us know that we are loved.

This seems to work around the board.

The most precious thing in life is love. It strengthens us. It encourages us. It lets us know that we are not alone.

Be open with your love. We need to know that it exists, that we’re not standing up against the darkness by ourselves. Like I said in my last post, my family’s love helped me get out of my deepest depression and has helped me fend it off ever since. Without their support, I don’t know if I could have done it.

As much as we may come off tough, introverted, angry, stubborn or misanthropic, it’s often a front we put up to keep people from realizing the depths of our pain.

Be strong and show us how strong we can be, too. Your love could be what pulls us up and out of the darkness for good.

i like to read this always

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Enjoy the similarities. Respect the differences. Together we’ll be strong.



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So that’s it, we always appreciate a thing only when we lose it.



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part HATI

So kalau rasa ada kalangan korang yang expert menjaga hati, maka lantiklah beliau menjadi PIC hati dan perasaan. Mungkin juga boleh assign siap2, siapa nak jaga hati Suzana, siapa nak jaga hati Malik, siapa nak jaga hati Tengku Wan Aisyah dan lain-lain. Ok ini macam lame.

Travel dgn orang ni kena banyak sabar. Ini main pointnya. Belajar dengar pendapat org lain dan berlapang dada kalau hasil syura tak spt apa yg kita nak. Masing2 ada preference dan juga cara tersendiri. Selagi boleh layan request kawan tu, layankan je la. Kalau rasa memang tak boleh/tak patut dilayan, then be strict. Voice out your opinion. Jangan asyik mengikut je dan tak kisah. Kawan2 lain boring nanti.

Enjoy the similarities. Respect the differences. Together we’ll be strong.

Train diri sikit2 cara nak membaca air muka, percakapan dan body language orang lain. Kadang2 dia tak bercakap pun, kita tau apa yang dia nak bgtau sebenarnya. Contoh yang paling segar dalam ingatan saya: Masa kat Milan kot, *a**** sgt marah ada sekali tu kat org lain, tapinya mulut tak bunyi langsung. Tau2 dia dok ngadap ikan2 emas kat akuarium hotel. Panggil pun tak menyahut. Pandang muka apatah lagi. So takyah la buang masa panggil byk2 kali nak ajak makan ke mandi kolam ke apa ke, biar dia sejuk dulu. Lagipun bukan senang nak dpt main dgn ikan hotel tanpa gangguan. Buat selamba je haha kejamnya 

Biasalah tu, asalkan lidah lagi tergigit, inikan pula teman bercuti. Belum lagi yang cakap main lepas je. Adehh pening org kat tengah2 ni. Jangan ikut sgt darah muda tu.

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this is for me

How to Get Happy when You're Sad

http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Happy-when-You're-Sad

and more there

1. Call up a friend to talk about it (or to get your mind off it). Your best friends can really give you a boost when you're feeling down. Only call someone you feel you can really communicate with.
2. 2
   Watch a funny movie, preferably one that you've already seen and liked. Or, watch a sad one, that will make you think "huh, my life isn't as bad as theirs!!"
3. 3
   Eat a good meal. Make something different and delicious, something out of the ordinary. For some people, a good meal can always brighten up a bad mood.
4. 4
   Exercise. Go for a walk,a jog, or a bike ride. Doing this will make your body release endorphins and adrenaline through your body which will make you feel better physically and emotionally.
5. 5
   Be spontaneous. Sometimes a consistent and boring routine can make you feel bad. Do something out of the blue, but don't make any rash decisions.
6. 6
   Paint a picture. Express your feelings with color and shapes. Art is part of life.
7. 7
   Cry Let all the tears of sadness drain of your body and wipe up with a refreshing tissue
8. 8
   Think about good memories. If you've lived through them once, than you can definitely have them again. Just because things may seem bad right now doesn't mean that tomorrow they will be.
9. 9
   Take a shower. You will feel happier and refreshed.
10. 10
    Get out of the house! The fresh air will make you feel better. Go somewhere with a friend, a family member, or even by yourself. See a movie, shop, go on a picnic, etc. Staying inside is like trapping yourself inside your depression.
11. 11
    Listen to music. Don't listen to sad music–try listening to energetic tunes or a song that inspires you or reminds you of good times.
12. 12
    Have a good cry. Sometimes the sadness stays inside your head if you try to force yourself to be happy. Try to let the tears out at the most appropriate time, mainly the best time when you are alone. Do this, and you might feel more relieved of your sad feelings, as if it "got off your chest".
13. 13
    Put your feelings into perspective. Is what you're upset about really as important as you think? Did it seem to heavily affect more on yourself than those around you? If you sulk about little problems, like not receiving a perfect grade or spilled milk, then you're going to feel sad a lot more easily. Not all of your problems require you to use your head, especially not ones that are very serious like the loss of a loved one. If you use reason to cheer yourself up, chances are you'll feel a lot less stressed.
14. 14
    Sometimes taking a nap might make you feel better. Try it and have a good, long nap.
15. 15
    Journal - Stop dwelling on past hurts, and look to the future. Each day is a new day. Just because you were sad yesterday doesn't mean you have to be sad today. Get a fresh slate. Each person has a good side to them: show yours. Be grateful for what you have; don't worry about what you don't have.
16. 16
    Instead of writing in a journal, make a list of 100 things that make you happy. It's a challenge, but see if you can do it. Don't think, don't worry about if it's childish or silly, just write it down.
17. 17
    Before you go to bed, completely clear your mind of everything. This includes school life, grades, friends, family, etc. Dream up your happy place. This will at least leave you falling asleep with a better mood, making your feelings brighter in the morning.
18. 18
    Listen to certain songs, preferably songs that give you a nice warm, happy feeling.
19. 19
    Take a long walk to calm you down and to relax. Sometimes, it gives you a soothing feeling. Take a deep breath and puff it out.
20. 20
    Take a hot bath with a book to relax and feel at rest, very soothing. If it helps take gentle breaths of air.
21. 21
    Laugh, it may be forceful at first but it can trigger a funny memory then the laugh is real.
22. 22
    Look at some of your childhood pictures, if a funny one pops up you'll probably think "HAHA, I was a really funny kid a long time ago." Ask your parents for childhood pictures if you want a lot of them!
23. 23
    Stick to your routines. Probably you don't feel like doing it but force yourself to do it. You will possibly feel everything as normal as before. It's important to know that while you have lost something/someone but you still have whole lots of other things/people that you enjoy.

EditTips

• Writing in a journal can help you figure out your feelings.
• Book an appointment with a therapist especially if you are constantly feeling depressed.
• Take a very deep breath, you will feel delighted.
• Smile. Even if you don't mean it, you'll feel better.
• Practice pranayam.
• Everyday is a start to the rest of your life.
• "When I'm sad, I stop being sad and be awesome instead."
• Try yoga. It can help clear the mind and free the soul.
• Think about things objectively. Is your sadness really worth all the tears? Is your life the worst it could possibly be?
• (Note: If you really feel like there's no hope anymore, considering talking to a professional or letting an adult know. Remember, there's always an option.)
• Get something non-breakable and throw it really hard, or squeeze it really hard! It will make you feel better! Just make sure you cannot break it because then you'll have a mess to clean up, and that will make you sad!
• Say hello to every person you see and hop on alternating feet.
• Make flubber and play with it.
• Always smile.
• Think of something happy or funny or jump on a trampoline.
• Forget about the past or bad memories and begin making new and brighter ones!
• Remember that sadness will eventually go away if you think positively.

• Sometimes people eat when they're sad or stressed out, but this is not the best idea. Sure, it might make you feel good, but eating won't cure you, you'll just feel bloated and put yourself in a tougher situation. However, some people find eating difficult when they are particularly upset or sad. This is just as detrimental to well being as overeating. The brain cannot function properly without the carbohydrates, proteins, fats and other nutrients it needs. This can lead to irrational decisions, decrease in energy and listlessness.
• Do not isolate yourself. This is especially important if you are depressed very often. You might just want people to leave you alone, but don't make yourself be with no one else around. Don't push your friends away and try to regularly participate in social activities that you enjoy or don't mind doing.
• Don't start doing irresponsible and irrational things. It won't make you truly happy and will only end up giving you more problems. If you don't normally drink/do drugs/smoke, then don't get anywhere near it when you're sad; you won't think clearly and regret it later. Don't do any self-injury either, it will just cause more pain and trouble.
• Dont take your anger out on someone else. Instead, punch a punching bag or a pillow.
• Continue to eat Some people eat when they are stressed; but some people cannot eat when they are stressed or worried. If you don't eat when you're stressed, make sure you are eating normal portions daily. However, don't overeat, this can lead to obesity.

thank you

i need it

i am sad

To encounter sad, i read an amazing book of Dont be sad





WOW amazing becoz got a site of this book

and few excerpt

http://www.dont-be-sad-alqarni.com/

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Don't Be Sad

By Aaidh ibn Abdullah al-Qarni - Book Excerpts

This website contains a few books excerpts from the very popular book by Sheikh Aaidh ibn Abdullah al-Qarni.

You can select the various topics of the book on the left side.

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